Joanna Lumley: The nicer you are, the lonelier you become ...

Over the past few weeks, you have seen Joanna as the TV detective Sapphire. Joanna is beautiful, has success, but remains alone...

Slowly Joanna's slender fingers slid over the wedding ring and immediately all kinds of images shot through her head. Joanna Lumley told her bystanders what she "saw" and the mouths fell open in surprise. She had just created a razor-sharp image of the owner of the ring. A completely unknown to Joanna...

In her cozy apartment in London's Holland Park, Joanna talks amusedly about that remarkable sixth sense of hers.

Sapphire, the female detective, which she currently plays in a TV series with David McCallum also has that special gift.

"But that is all pure fantasy of the scriptwriter," says Joanna. "But it’s totally real to me!"

Beautiful Joanna, whom we got to know best in the TV series "The Avengers" shares her home with son Jamie. He is now twelve years old. Shortly after Jamie's birth, Joanna divorced her husband. Whoever was that man wants Joanna to keep the secret. "He started leading his own life and it would only harm him if he were called the "ex" of well-known Joanna. He also has no contact with Jamie. And it's better. Jamie never really knew his father and I can only handle his upbringing."


Yet, it must sometimes be lonely in that friendly apartment or is Joanna not entirely alone? "If you mean whether there is one specific man, then the answer is ‘no’. Earlier, it was different. I regularly went to parties and then you still want to bump into someone. But it never lasted long. I also receive all kinds of marriage requests via post. I am already well over fifty proposals, but that is nothing for me.

I have thought about it for a long time and I still play with the idea of writing a book about the loneliness of a beautiful woman. Because my experience is that, as a woman is more beautiful, she also becomes lonelier. What have I often seen with actresses and models. How their beauty is a barrier, creates an unwanted distance and ultimately becomes a handicap. I have often experienced that same thing.

But let me not especially pretend that I am languishing here in my apartment. Jamie is here. And then a series of good friends with whom a good conversation is possible, who want to help you and understand you. And as long as they are still there, I do not believe that I will easily bind myself to one man again."

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